This was very hard for me to grasp Somtimes i said something, sometimes i did nothing. But my wife blew up. And i would think to my self i did something wrong and id get upset and now she never gets her problem fixed and she consoled me. Be the man and listen to her be there for her and hold her. Make sure she knows you will be there for her. Let he know whatever got her this way its the both of you against it and not just her❤️ You cant fix it then dont try listen figure it out later. Or help do things that help prevent the things she is ranting about or upset about. My wife has alot on her plate she doesnt voice and i dont always understand and thats okay just listen if she ever blows up and you dont know what you did. I promise it will change alot. Im still learning