What you have to realize about this post 👇 I was that guy 🙈 Most of my reels on avoidants are drawn from personal experience (with added hyperbole for the laughs) It took a lot of pain for me to get to where I’m at today. Growing up in a dysfunctional environment laid the foundation for my fearful avoidant tendencies. Early heartbreaks → walling off my heart and “settling” in a relationship that grew increasingly unhealthy, always with one foot out the door and constantly questioning whether to stay or leave 😔 I didn’t trust myself or anyone else. I was disconnected from my intuition. I didn’t know how to feel any emotion except anger. I numbed my pain with cannabis 🫥 The hard truth is: I had to go through this to get to where I am today… If you’d shown me the tools that I have today when I was stuck in ambivalence and addiction, I would’ve rejected them. I wasn’t ready – I was too scared. But then came the tipping point… When the pain of staying the same outweighed the fear of change. That’s when I TRULY opened up to taking radical responsibility for my own healing ❤️🩹 Years later, I’m primarily secure with both feet in a healthy, thriving relationship and helping avoidants overcome the pain, guilt and shame at the root of their relationship patterns. I share this content not to pressure you to change if you’re not ready… But to add drops in the bucket of your awareness, to nudge you closer to that moment when you ARE ready to leap into a new paradigm of relationships—for yourself, and for your future partners. When you’re ready to take that first step, I’ve put all the tools into my Relational Alchemy Course to help make it easier. You can get (+ other tesources) at my link in bio 🫶 . . . . .
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