The holidays bring a kaleidoscope of emotions. Joy, nostalgia, hopeâbut also loneliness, frustration, and heartache. One of my favorite quotes by Viktor Frankl is: âBetween stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.â That space can feel fleeting, especially during the holidays when emotions run high. But what if, in that space, we made a different choice? What if, instead of reacting to the tension, we softened? What if, instead of leaning into blame or assumptions about our loved ones, we chose to pause and see themânot just as they are now, but as they were? The parent who critiques too much? Maybe they were once a child who felt imperfect and desperately sought validation. The partner who shuts down during conflict? Perhaps they grew up in a home where silence was survival. The sibling who lashes out? Maybe theyâre still carrying the weight of feeling overlooked or overpowered. We all carry storiesâof hurt, of love, of longing. And when we step back from the narratives weâve built about the people around us, we can start to see the humanity underneath. That doesnât mean excusing harm or ignoring your own pain. But it does mean opening the door to understanding. Forgiveness isnât about letting someone off the hook; itâs about freeing yourself from carrying the weight of resentment. Compassion isnât about denying boundaries; itâs about holding space for someone elseâs pain alongside your own. This holiday season, if you feel the heaviness of strained relationships or the loneliness of unmet expectations, know this: You are enough. You are worthy. You are loved. Letâs use that space between stimulus and response to breathe, to reflect, and to choose loveânot the perfect, fairy-tale kind, but the messy, real, transformative kind. Happy holidays to everyone navigating the complexities of this season. Youâre not alone. đ
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