Conflict isn’t the enemy—it’s an OPPORTUNITY! 🙌🏼 Especially as recovering people-pleasers and fawns, we’ve often been conditioned to… 👉🏼 avoid conflict all costs Or 👉🏼 immediately take the blame for it Or 👉🏼 completely sweep it under the rug But 🌿generative conflict 🌿 the kind where we stay curious, open, and willing to engage—can be the bridge to deeper intimacy and trust with yourself and others. So how can you tell if the conflict is generative or hostile? Here are 3 ways to know when to lean in versus when you may need stronger boundaries: 1️⃣ Respect is present: In generative conflict, both parties seek understanding, even if emotions run high. If there’s name-calling, belittling, or aggression, it’s likely hostile. 2️⃣ Accountability is possible: Generative conflict allows room for both people to take responsibility for their part. Hostile conflict often involves blame-shifting or refusal to acknowledge harm. 3️⃣Growth feels mutual: Generative conflict feels like it’s moving toward resolution or clarity. Hostile conflict feels like you’re going in circles or stuck in power struggles. How do you usually approach conflict—avoid it, fight it, or lean in? Share your thoughts below, and let’s explore how to navigate it with intention and care. 🌿 . . . . . .
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