Replying to @hello ππ when somebody accuses us of being invalidating, and their miss using that word, we are naturally going to want to point out that we're not being invalidating. This is a gotcha moment, because a person acting in bad faith will use our natural and righteous reaction to accuse us of being argumentative and dismissive. Somebody showing up in good faith who may be using these terms incorrectly is going to be curious and open to hearing our confusion or response to the accusation. They're not going to sit and monitor every word we say for an opportunity to add on charges.
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