If I could go back to the time before my husband's accident, there is so much I would do differently. There is so much I would make sure I knew and understood about what my husband, Ryan, wanted if anything happened to him and what would be the most significant and important to him as the boys and I went through our lives without him. I would make sure we had the really tough conversations even if they we didn't want to talk about these terrible, unimaginable things. We didn't have a lot of these conversations and so I had to make really difficult decisions on my own without truly knowing what Ryan wanted. All my decisions were in his best interest (or so I thought), but I truly wish I didn't have to make any decisions in crisis and that I just knew exactly what to do. I didn't know so much. I still don't know if I did exactly what he would have wanted. But I did the best I could. If you're reading this and have a spouse or significant other, here is your sign to start having those really tough, messy, and unpleasant conversations. I wish I had fought for them. I wish I had some insight into so many things I have to guess and wonder now for myself. It's too late for me, but it's not too late for you if your spouse is still here ❤️ I hope you never have to know the answers to these questions, but I promise they will mean more than you know if you ever do need to know. What are some things you wish you had asked your spouse before they died? . . . 💌DM "Support" for 1:1 grief support 💌DM "Carried" to preorder my 2nd book 💌DM "Running " for my book 💌DM "Email" to sign up for my list . . . . If I could go back to the time before my husband's accident, there is so much I would do differently. There is so much I would make sure I knew and understood about what my husband, Ryan, wanted if anything happened to him and what would be the most significant and important to him as the boys and I went through our lives without him. I would make sure we had the really tough conversations even if they we didn't want to talk about these terrible, unimaginable things. We didn't have a lot of these conversations and so I had to make really difficult decisions on my own without truly knowing what Ryan wanted. All my decisions were in his best interest (or so I thought), but I truly wish I didn't have to make any decisions in crisis and that I just knew exactly what to do. I didn't know so much. I still don't know if I did exactly what he would have wanted. But I did the best I could. If you're reading this and have a spouse or significant other, here is your sign to start having those really tough, messy, and unpleasant conversations. I wish I had fought for them. I wish I had some insight into so many things I have to guess and wonder now for myself. It's too late for me, but it's not too late for you if your spouse is still here ❤️ I hope you never have to know the answers to these questions, but I promise they will mean more than you know if you ever do need to know. What are some things you wish you had asked your spouse before they died? . . . 💌DM "Support" for 1:1 grief support 💌DM "Carried" to preorder my 2nd book 💌DM "Running " for my book 💌DM "Email" to sign up for my list . . . .
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