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This one cuts so freaking deep 💛 Inside, it feels like —✨I’m scared because I think you might be mad at me and I’m not even sure if you love me right now. I can’t be okay until I know WE are okay + until I know YOU are okay.✨ Healing our Inner Child is about comforting the parts of us who’ve never experienced someone being mad at us + still loving us 💛 Talk yourself through it like the most loving parent you can imagine. You deserve that 💛 ✨Saying to ourselves: — “Maybe they’re mad…at me + maybe they’re not. What actual evidence do I have that they’re mad, at me? Could this be feeling familiar in a painful way — like from childhood?” — “They’re going through something right now + it most likely has NOTHING to do with me.” ✨Saying to your inner child: — “I see you. It feels scary when others are upset with us. Just because they’re being quiet doesn’t mean they don’t love us anymore. I’ve got you + I love you.” Is this you?? Drop me a 💛 if you can relate. Follow me for more ✨ “Good” Kid Reh@b✨ #innerchildrehab #innerchildhealing #maggiewithperspectacles #goodkid #goodkids #recoveringgoodkid #eldestdaughter #creatorsearchinsights

What lies ahead for the “good” kid? ➡️ THERAPY. So much Therapy + a lifetime of healing. There is a growing body of literature supporting this unexpected reality so, so many of us are living — that being the “good” kid has a profound impact + “good” kids have extensive mental health challenges + healing ahead of them, into adulthood 💛 A few more things “good” kids need to hear — ✨You deserve to have needs + preferences WITHOUT feeling like a burden, or that you’re being “dramatic.” ✨You deserve to feel safe saying no + setting boundaries WITHOUT feeling guilty. ✨You deserve to figure out who you are OUTSIDE of what you do to take care of others. ✨You deserve to take some of the energy you spent making sure everyone else is doing okay…and focus on making sure that you are doing okay. ✨You deserve to believe that you’re lovable, that every single version of you, including you when you’re struggling… are ALL lovable. Not because you have to do anything or be anything to earn it. ✨You deserve to believe that you’re lovable because you exist 💛 Is this you? What did I miss?? Follow me for more “Good” Kid Reh@b insights + tools to help you heal AND break these cycles for your own kids 💛💛 #maggiewithperspectacles #goodkidrehab #recoveringgoodkid #goodkid #goodkidrecovery #goodkids #peoplepleasercheck #anxietywithperspectacles #empathsoftiktok #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughterproblems

F#CK being a “Good Girl” who alwayssss puts other’s comfort over their own 💛 F#CK being a “Good Girl” who suffers in silence to keep that person from getting mad 💛 F#CK being a “Good Girl” who sets herself on FIRE to keep others warm, as a way of life. Occasionally, yes. As a way of life…no 💛 F#CK being a “Good Girl” who is so selfless…she has no freaking idea who she is 💛 F#CK being a “Good Girl” who feels like a BURDEN if she has any emotions, any needs, any struggles 💛 Your “Good Girl” Rehab today is about how you get to be loyal TO YOU. To what feels good FOR YOU. TO what YOU need. TO what YOU want. Even if that person doesn’t like it. Even if they get mad. Even if they’re disappointed. Even if they disagree. Your loyalty is TO YOURSELF 💛 I see you, Recovering “Good Girl” 💛✨ Does this feel like a shocking revelation for you? Tell me ⬇️⬇️ Follow me for more “Good Girl” Reh@b for your Inner Child AND your kids #recoveringgoodgirl #goodgirlrehab #maggiewithperspectacles #recoveringgoodgirl #camplovable

Replying to @Caitlin Horrocks LCAT ATR-BC ✨“Good” Kid Reh@b: you weren’t born believing you’re a “burden” 💛 That was a LEARNED idea — you were made to feel that way at some point + Parts of you paid CLOSE ATTENTION to how pitiful + worthless it made you feel. These Parts of you are still referring back to their notes on all the things you need to never do again, so that nobody ever thinks you’re a burden 💛 These Parts of you desperately trying to keep you safe. These Parts of you believe that you have to act lovable + earn love by never needing anyone 😬🫣💛 But none of this is actually true ❌ It may be how you as a “good” kid had to be with your parent, though 😬 THANK these Parts of you for trying to protect you. Tell these Parts of you that it’s not necessary because you’re not a kid anymore. Tell these Parts of you that you deserve to have needs + it doesn’t make you worthless or unlovable or a burden. Tell these Parts of you that it’s such a privilege + honor for others to take care of you. And lovingly tell these Parts of you to STAND DOWN + let you do what you need to do to take care of yourself + receive support from others 💛 ✨Does this one cut deep for you? I see you 💛 I can’t wait to help you heal this. Follow me @maggiewithperspectacles for more “Good” Kid Reh@b for your kids AND your Inner Child 💛💛 #maggiewithperspectacles #goodkidrehab #recoveringgoodkid #goodkidrecovery #goodkid #goodkids #peoplepleasercheck #anxietywithperspectacles #empathsbelike #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughterproblems #reparentingwithperspectacles #innerchildhealingwithperspectacles #ifs #internalfamilysystems

✨You deserve to have needs + preferences WITHOUT feeling like a burden, or that you’re being “dramatic.” ✨You deserve to feel safe saying no + setting boundaries WITHOUT feeling guilty. ✨You deserve to figure out who you are OUTSIDE of what you do to take care of others. ✨You deserve to take some of the energy you spent making sure everyone else is doing okay…and focus on making sure that you are doing okay. ✨You deserve to believe that you’re lovable, that every single version of you, including you when you’re struggling… are ALL lovable. Not because you have to do anything or be anything to earn it. ✨You deserve to believe that you’re lovable because you exist 💛 Is this you? What did I miss?? Follow me for more “Good” Kid Reh@b insights + tools to help you heal AND break these cycles for your own kids 💛💛 #maggiewithperspectacles #goodkidrehab #recoveringgoodkid #goodkid #goodkidrecovery #goodkids #peoplepleasercheck #anxietywithperspectacles #empathsofinstagram #eldestdaughter #eldestdaughterproblems