Wueh!Looking back, I never used to listen to him to understand or rather process where he is coming from or what he is trying to communicate. I mostly listened to respond or react, get mad, jump into self defense when he raised concerns, act weirdly etc.I lacked accountability and responsibility.I was giving him so much pressure at some point which was good and also unhealthy for his mental health at that point cz I was asking for much more than we can swallow at that stage and I guess it was mostly pressure from friends, social media and constant comparison, this was back in 2017 huko I guess. He was not an angel either, he had his couple of shortcomings. We are married for 12yrs. And we definitely have learnt so many lessons. At some point in 2022 we seperated for 1yr, in 2023 n 2024 we were on n off as well, during this time I learned alot about myself, ourselves seperately, which was necessary, cz when we gt back together it has been nothing short of giving the best version of ourselves to each other.We feel like teen in love Our first intense argument was about finances.At the time we were about 6yrs into the marriage. After that argument we had interventions from our families (my big brother, mom in law, dad in law) .Well,we got our lessons and finances have never been an issue in our fights. After that we had a beautiful union for a while then other different challenges came knocking, I hope one day we will be able to take you on a series of our marriage experiences and lessons learnt from each.Mpenzi,😆this marriage is for life, ukichoka Take a nap we carry on!
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