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#narcabuserecovery offers support and healing for those affected by narcissistic abuse. It fosters community, sharing experiences, encouraging self-discovery, empowerment, resilience, understanding, validation, recovery strategies, and strategies for emotional well-being.
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Toxic Families operate on polar opposites... extreme belonging & exile. To belong you have to accept the dysfunction and play by the rules of the most toxic person. It costs you your health, individuality, outside relationships & personal growth. To push back is to be exiled & villainized... you become the example of what not to be. The role model for it means to be "bad, broken or crazy" and you serve as a warning to other members of what it looks like to step out of line & question the family rules. I know we often talk about the courage it takes to break the cycle but that can feel so empowered when in reality we might have had no choice... we might have reached rock bottom... it might have been life or death for us... we might have our own children to protect or the pain might have built up so much that it became intolerable. Sometimes the snowball rolls downhill & picks up so much momentum that we are left with no other option but to push back or walk away. That is just as honorable. Because at the end of the day, you are still facing the things that no one else in your family is facing and THAT is courage. It's that shift you make or are thrown into that sets your life on a new trajectory... messy, heartbreaking at times but ultimately honest & liberating in the end♥️ ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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How Many Do You Notice? 👇🏼 Curious about working together? Check out my bio for more info ℹ️ ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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The worn out excuse I see every single day on my reels is “We did our BEST, Stop Blaming Your Parents” typically followed with some derogatory comment about how our generation thinks it’s trendy to hate parents, be a victim & destroy families. Here’s the reality... * Our generation is one of the first to speak up about how our parents impacted us emotionally, mentally & physically & then advocate for change. * Every single person I have ever worked with, WISHED their parents would have listened to them and changed so they could maintain a relationship that felt safer & healthier. * When you comment “Stop Blaming Parents & Acting Like a Victim” you are LITERALLY making yourself the victim & creating the same toxic behavior most of us grew up with. * Blaming & Accountability are not the same thing. The reality is toxic parents call it blame to invalidate those who are speaking & belittle their voice. * If a parent cannot hold space for the pain they have caused, that is THEIR work to do, not the child’s (adult or otherwise) * If you are a grandparent who refuses to treat your adult children with respect, love & care... you are not going to have a relationship with their children. Your adult child knows how you behave & who you are better than anyone & will protect their children from your unhealthy behavior. * No ones truly wants to lose family or go no contact... we want you to heal, take responsibility & do your own work to emotionally mature. ************************************************** Not Therapy. Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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Healing happens when you learn to trust your own boundaries & needs. Toxic people will constantly push those boundaries & ask you to deny them in yourself. One of the things they will use against you is the feeling of guilt. They will build a narrative against you that you are "'guilty" or "mean" for not giving them their way or putting them first. Your work in healing is learning to sit with the fact that other people will be uncomfortable or upset when you put yourself first. Build safety. The more you can create safety and stack the deck to feel safe, the easier it will be to allow people their own feelings without feeling like you are in danger or a bad person. Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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Rules for Healing as the Family Scapegoat... 1. Stop trying to explain or prove yourself. You are only contributing to feeling more misunderstood when people are committed to not hearing you. 2. You are not everything (or sometimes anything) you've been told you are. If a label, title or criticism feels like it hurts the core of who you are, really take the time to see if it's true to who you are or is someone's projection onto you. 3. Healing sometimes means solitude or changing who you let around. If someone triggers your nervous system & stops you from healing because it puts you in crisis, take a break from the situation and heal, then come back and reassess. 4. Just because your family didn't approve of, accept or validate who you are, doesn't mean others won't get you & love you for who you genuinely are. 5. Practice making peace with never getting the validation, answer or apology you always wanted. It's hard but the truth is, your healing is not dependent on it, you are capable of healing without it. Need more support from one Scapegoat to another? Check out the info for private sessions in my bio ☝️ ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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Did you grow up with this type of rage? Narcissistic Rage can be terrifying and at the very least leave you walking on eggshells & feeling unsafe in the event you upset them or triggered them. Our responses as a child would have been... 🥷 FIGHT- You pushed back or stood up for yourself. Yes, you probably knew it could get worse but this would have happened if you felt like you had no other option and/or you were protecting someone else (ie. siblings or other parent) 🏃FLIGHT-You knew that the best option was to sneak away, go to your room or leave the house because you felt safer being alone. 🥶FREEZE- You knew that there was nothing to do but take it and hope it would end soon. You were expected to stay put until they unleashed everything they needed. Then you were expected to have no emotions or response to their behavior other than accepting you deserved it. If you grew up having to go into one of these survival modes, you may still be doing it now on some level... even if you have different options as an adult because you have more power. ▶️ Somatic Practice to Try... 1. Tune into that feeling you had as a child in the face of the anger/rage. What do you notice emotionally or feel in your body. Give it a name & be curious. 2. Sit with that feeling, what do you instinctively want to do ? (ie. cry, run, make fists, yell etc) 3. What happens if you allow yourself to very slowly do the thing you are sensing your body wants to do? Does anything change? Does it need something new? ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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Signs Your Inner Child might still be struggling with some Childhood Trauma... * You don't take care of yourself first or ask for what you need because you don't want to be a burden * It's hard for you to figure out what boundaries are & if you set one you feel guilty or "bad" * Your Inner Voice is constantly telling you to try harder or be more because what you do & who you are is never enough * It's easier to keep people happy than deal with the feelings of their disappointment, anger or silence * You hide your anger under busy-ness, jokes & sadness * You struggle to get things done that are actually important to you & self sabotage or put if off Question to ask yourself if you notice any of these.... "What version of yourself do you long to be?" and "If you are honest with yourself, when or why did you to lose permission to be that?" ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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🚨Were you a SCAPEGOAT?🐐 The thing with being stuck in freeze is that most of us are in some form of functional freeze so we overlook it and wonder why we’re emotionally numb or overwhelmed, exhausted, have brain fog or no energy… the list goes on. But if you grew up as a scapegoat in a narcissistic family, you are probably an Olympic level athlete at forcing yourself to freeze and override your emotions because that’s what you had to do to survive. You had to emotionally monitor and placate parents, pretend you were ok when you weren’t, act like the insults and criticism didn’t hurt & shut down your own feelings to protect the narcissistic parent’s ego. Did you ever really come out of it? Most of us healing childhood trauma still have some part of us that can be stuck in freeze. If you’re unraveling it or exploring the possibility a really good question to explore is… What do I not have permission to feel? Why? Who told me that or made me feel this way? What am I afraid would happen if I felt it? Not Therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport #EOYInspo24
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When you’ve been conditioned to fawn and people please, being called “difficult” feels like a dagger to the heart. But here's the truth… It’s not that you’re being “difficult”, it’s that your anger is a sign of your true expression and power, which is more difficult to control 👑 Especially if you’re in relationships with people who dismiss, belittle, or weaponize your anger. Your anger isn't the problem - it's their discomfort with your boundaries and your power 🔥 Anger is not dangerous. It's a vital signal that your values are potentially being challenged, or that something needs to change. When you stop fawning and start expressing your truth, the people who thrived on trying to control you may resist (including IG your inner oppressor) - but that resistance isn't a reflection of your worth. It’s a call for growth 🌱 It's time to practice befriending your anger, learning its sensations and expression and how it connects to your voice. Because it is a crucial building block for your self-worth. And no need to apologize for it either - in fact, let’s start celebrating it as a sign of your healthy differentiation! 🔥 Save this as a reminder of who you truly are and feel free to share with someone who may need to hear it ❤️🔥 . . . . . #womensanger #healthyanger #somatichealing #somaticexperincing #nervoussystemregulation #narcabuserecovery
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Boomer Parents, if your children are showing you that you have caused them harm, take a deep breath and before all of your own emotions and self defensive maneuvers kick in, let me share a few things with you that could be helpful... 1. We know that when you throw around "stop blaming your parents" it's because in your experience blame can equate to punishment and shame and those fears are heavy. We are not asking for you to be flogged in the street. We are asking for you to take some responsibility in your role as a parent. When you do that, we can let down our defenses of having to "prove the hurt" and actual conversation is more likely. 2. We know that you grew up in a time where slurs, misogyny, discrimination & racism were more fully allowed. Consider for one moment how that permission & social acceptance to verbally, physically and emotionally harm others could have bled into your parenting. 3. We know we have more access to mental health resources & information... that's because we have created it. You simultaneously shame us for having these conversations while stating the only reason we know more about mental health is because we have access because of these same conversations. Don't forget, you also have access to the very same info NOW... if you wanted to understand, nothing is stopping you. ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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4 Signs You Might have a Toxic Parent🚨 1. You are expected to live your adult life “their way”… they are constantly telling you what choices you should make, guilting you for having an opinion outside of theirs and generally pressuring you to comply with what they want. 2. You are expected to respect them, no matter how they treat you… because they operate with a double standard. They believe you owe them respect but they don’t feel they owe you any. 3. You walk on eggshells to not trigger or upset them... because you know if you do, you will have to deal with their emotional fallout. 4. It has become your responsibility to make them look good or be the “perfect family”... and they feel like they have the right to take credit for your successes and achievements in life that can be used to put them in a good light. The literal emotional labor involved in this is EXHAUSTING and honestly, no matter how many ways you try to cushion their responses... it’s not going to work. What you have to choose to lean into instead is setting and maintaining healthy boundaries to protect your own wellbeing & re-establish what you need. For so long, the relationship has prioritized their needs and you might feel afraid or guilty to put yours first (totally normal!) but the only way this dynamic typically changes is if you start to add yourself into the equation and empower yourself to say “No.” ************************************************** Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study. #narcawareness #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcabuserecovery #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumabond #traumaresponse #traumaresponse #traumarelease #somaticexperiencing #somatichealing #somaticmovement #ptsdrecovery #ptsdwarrior #ptsdtherapy #healingtrauma #healingtools #empaths #empathsofinstagram #empathsbelike #childhoodtrauma #empathsupport
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Who will you become after the discard? The Three Paths After Leaving a Narcissist. We talk about the three possible outcomes after leaving a narcissistic relationship: healing and transformation through following the Lord, falling back into old patterns, or becoming a narcissist yourself. The key is to choose the path of healing and spiritual renewal. For a 1:1 inner healing session send me a DM🙏🏾💚🕊️ #coachlajuana #narcfree #christiantiktok #narcabusesurvivor #NarcissisticAbuse #lovebombing #narcabuserecovery #covertnarcissist
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Narc Abuse Survivors Be Like #narcabusesurvivors #postnarcglowup #narcabuserecovery #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #mentalhealthmattersmost #mymentalhealthmatters
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