Here are 5 things you need to know !!! 1. Understand Your Triggers Why It Matters: The ex’s texts might not be the root cause; they may bring up deeper feelings, such as insecurity, lack of control, or frustration over unresolved dynamics. Actionable Steps: Reflect on your emotional reaction. Ask yourself: What about this message bothers me? What fear or belief might it be tapping into? Keep a journal to track recurring patterns in how these texts make you feel. 2. You Don’t Have to Respond Why It Matters: Unless it's your role to communicate with the ex, you don’t need to engage. Even if the text feels unfair or intrusive, it’s okay to step back. Actionable Steps: Set boundaries with your partner about who responds to texts and under what circumstances. If you’re tempted to reply, draft a response but don’t send it—use it as a way to vent or process your feelings. 3. Focus on Your Partner’s Role Why It Matters: Your partner is the one co-parenting with their ex. You’re not responsible for managing their communication or solving conflicts. Actionable Steps: Discuss how you’d like your partner to handle communication to minimize unnecessary involvement. Let your partner take the lead, unless their ex directly involves you inappropriately. 4. Separate Facts from Emotion Why It Matters: Texts can feel more personal than they are. What might seem like an attack could be neutral or poorly worded. Actionable Steps: Before reacting, ask yourself: Is this about me, or about their co-parenting dynamic? Reread the text later when you’re calmer to see if your perception changes. 5. Prioritize Your Peace Why It Matters: Constantly being triggered drains your energy and affects your relationships. You deserve to feel calm and in control of your reactions. Actionable Steps: Practice self-care after a triggering text: take a walk, meditate, or talk to a trusted friend. Use tools like “Do Not Disturb” or a separate co-parenting app to create distance from texts that disrupt your day.
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