William Hornby

If this has been activating for you, please know that slipping into some form of disordered eating is not immoral or a failing in any way. (I just want to make sure that you take care of yourself as best as possible no matter what and that includes being gentle with and nourishing yourself along with whatever else you’re doing to cope.) It is not immoral to struggle with food. It is not immoral to binge. In the face of all of this, you still matter, you are so worthy of life, and you are still worth recovery.

Get some food with your coffee next time! 🫶🏻

Oops! Guess you gotta go eat some food now! 😬

We can’t keep meeting like this 😭 But in all seriously actually we can and we will keep meeting like this until you beat me to it and you make sure that you’re eating enough to support your energy needs throughout today and every day! You deserve enough food! Unconditionally!

“don’t comment on my body, do not reply” as some might say

You will never catch me encouraging you to focus on your weight or the way it changes. Lose weight or gain weight, you are just as inherently valuable, worthy of respect, and amazing. Love you all and remember that you are worth recovery. ❤️ **also — to be clear — this is not me commenting on my own weight or its fluctuations. Please never comment on mine. This is a made up conversation to demonstrate a point.**

And if you love going to the gym and the community you build there and how it makes your body feel, THAT’S GREAT! I love that for you. I hope everyone finds a way to move that brings them as much joy as the gym brings you. And, that acknowledged, it is never okay to tell people they are going to die or god forbid SHOULD die because they don’t look like you and do the things you do!!!!! Leave other people alone!!!! If you’re a “gym bro” and you feel like this is about you, wear the shoe if it fits! But this isn’t about all people who go to the gym or even about all people who would self-identify as “gym bros.” BUT (!!!!!) if you’re the kind of gym bro who is always fighting about people’s bodies and how they eat in comment sections, yes, this IS about you, and to you I say, “cope harder” (and “stop bullying people,” and, probably, “get help!”)

Being loud AND wrong is embarrassing. CICO has so little basis in reality and I’m so tired of people using it to back up their abuse of Fat people on the internet. If you want to read more or are looking for sources to cite, check out my essay, “Your Body Isn’t a Calculator.” #cico #weightloss #weightlossjouney

Like, PLEASE do not do this. PLEASE do not put yourself at risk of having this conversation. It’s embarrassing. And it should be.

If some tries to be condescending to you this year, it’s fair game to point out how sad it is that they’re trying to do that on a holiday or any day. Embarrassing. Humiliating even.

Do NOT let them get away with it. Call it out. Point out that it is truly humiliating to be treating people that way. It should make THEM feel small when they realize what they’ve done — not you.

Some inpiration for dealing with some of the most difficult people you might encounter this holiday season. 🫶🏻

Taking some time away from your phone and doomscrolling to eat will be good for you. It might even make you feel a little better. I promise.