boundaried hashtag performance

Both shift their #sensitivity (#boundaried decreases sensitivity and #unboundaried increases #hypervigilant sensitivity) under stress. Both become #judging and #rigid. #couples #attachment #ocd #adhd #equalizing #authenticity #puppetmaster and #trainer at extremes.

There’s so much more to it. Probably two people with at least #adhd ish brains, if not #autistic ish or #ocd ish. One swings more #inattentive where their #attention gets “stuck” and one swings more #hyperactive (or ocd) where their attention urgently shifts. Also, #conditioning matters. Both often have some #neglect wound, and inattentive brain will go more #boundaried / #independent (inwardly focused) to handle the distress and #hyperactiveadhd brain will go more #unboubdaried / #dependent (outwardly focused) to handle the stress. If this is interesting, buy my book.